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Hey you!

I want to tell you something before you sign that paper

Do you know this would be one of the most critical decision you will ever make in life?

What is driving your decision making?

Is it?

Money?

Appearance?

Social status?

Tribe, religion/ethnicity?

Why do you think he/she is the right person?

Do you have peace at all?

Have you done a soul searching?

When you sign that paper and say "I do" to him/her, be rest assured that you're saying "I do" to his/her good and bad sides.

Don't bite what you cannot chew, don't say "I do" to someone you cannot cope with.

There are different stages to every relationship, don't be swayed by the romantic stage and close your eyes to the reality stage.

Marriage is the reality stage.

If he's a guy that womanize, drinks and smokes and party, When you say "I do" to him, you're saying "you do" to his cheating, smoking, drinking and clubbing sides, don't think you can just change him overnight.

If she's a lady that keep secrets, cheats, nag, dirty and mismanaged resources, when you say"I do" to her, knowing fully well that you're saying "you do" to that part of her.

There's no perfect man or woman but choose your struggle wisely, don't say "I do" to someone you cannot cope with.

Don't rush until you resolve this within.