When you gradually get cure in Cancer , your support will become less

When you gradually remedy from cancer , you will face a lot of changes

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One of the biggest lies that I had accidentally believed during cancer treatment was that "everything would go back to normal, once treatment was over".

I had this picture in my head.

I would finish my possible and all of the existing cancer treatment.

The oncology doctors would smile.

I would really be able to ring the bell.

Everyone would celebrate.

And then somehow, magically, life would go back to being life again.

The problem is that nobody tells you what happens after the bell.

Nobody tells you that one day you will walk out of an appointment and realize that there are fewer appointments scheduled.

Nobody tells you that eventually the SmS and the condolence texts would be slowed down.

The cancer meal trains would stop.

The hospital and clinic check-ins would become less frequent.

People will stop asking how you are doing because they are relieved that you are okay.

And you know what?

I do not blame them.

The people who showed up for me during treatment were incredible. They loved me through some of the darkest days of my life.

But what nobody talks about is that - while life starts moving forward for everyone else, many cancer survivors are standing there wondering how to be able to move forward too.

I remember myself sitting on my couch one afternoon after one cancer treatment ended.

The house was quiet.

The kids were busy.

Life looked normal from the outside.

And for the first time since diagnosis, I was not being focused on the next surgery or the next treatment or the next scan.

I was just… sitting there. And doing nothing else.

And suddenly the weight of everything I had really been through all crashed into me.

The fear.

The trauma.

The grief.

The anger.

The exhaustion.

All of it.

During treatment, you are in survival mode.

You do not have time to process what is happening because you are too busy getting through it.

You are focused on making it to the next appointment.

The next treatment.

The next scan.

The next milestone.

But when the crisis ends, your brain finally has space to catch up.

And sometimes it catches up all at once.

I do not think people realize how strange it feels to spend months or years fighting for your life and then be expected to simply return to normal.

Because "normal", does not exist anymore.

Cancer changed me.

Cancer changed how I see my body.

Cancer changed how I see time.

Cancer changed how I see relationships.

Cancer changed how I see tomorrow.

Before cancer, I assumed that I would still had decades of life to live

But, After having cancer, I learned how quickly and how fast that life can really be changed.

I learned that any existing plan can disappear overnight.

I learned that a normal Tuesday can become the day that changes everything.

And once you know that, you can never unknow it.

For a long time I thought something was wrong with me because I was notcelebrating the way I thought I should.

I thought surviving should feel happier.

I thought I should be grateful all the time.

I thought I should feel relieved.

Instead, I felt confused.

Lost.

Scared.

And honestly? A little guilty.

Because I had survived.

So why was I not able to become much more happier?

It took me a long time to understand that healing from cancer is not just physical.

Sometimes the emotional healing takes even longer than the physical healing.

Sometimes the scars you can not even see are the scars that take the most time to remedy.

Today, years later, I understand something I wish someone had told me sooner.

There is nothing wrong with struggling after treatment.

There is nothing wrong with grieving the version of yourself that existed before cancer.

There is nothing wrong with needing time to figure out who you are now.

Because surviving cancer is not the end of the story.

It is just the beginning of a completely new chapter.

And maybe that is why I am sharing this with you guys today.

Because somewhere out (there), there is another survivor sitting on their couch wondering why they would still feel broken after everyone had told them that they should feel better.

If that is really you, I want you to hear this:

You are not broken.

You are not ungrateful.

You are not doing survivorship wrong.

You are healing from something new and unique that had really changed your life.

And healing takes time.

A lot more time than most people realize.

So if today feels hard, be gentle with yourself.

You have already survived so much.

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If this resonates with you, I would love to hear what nobody warned you about after cancer.