Nowadays, most men are judged for their decisions. I am one of them.
Long story short, I am 29 years old guy with no kids, I have been in a 2 years romatic relationship with a very beautiful woman. To be honest, the woman is everything I have ever asked for in my life, she does everything for me and I do the same.
The thing is she has a child, a 7 year old boy, the boys dad is now a subsance abuser and they don't get along with the family since he denied the little boy during the pregnancy.
I highly get along with my woman's kid since he did not have any father figure from birth. It seems like I am that father the he is been wanting. My girlfriend is also happy that we all get along, the way the kid treats me, it is like I am his real father. He got so much love for me, and I also feel the same since the kid is innocent and does not know anything.
The problem starts when the society wants to choose for us about who should we date and who we should not date. I am being regarded as a simp, a man who does not create his own family but joins one. A man that comes into a match at half time, while his team is losing 1 nil. A man who builds on the foundation that is already built. A man no backbone. I was labelled with all sorts of names.
The thing that people do not know is my bond with that woman, and the kid as well. I might not have a kid, but that does not mean that I should not give love to those who show love to me. I will make a kid in God's timing, it should not be a pressure to me just because I am dating someone with a kid.
I have learned to make my own decisions and leave the society with their judgements since I am the one who knows what I want. Anyone can call me whatever they want but they won't change how I feel, as well as the sacrifices I took with my girl for the past 2 years.
The woman did not leave me even when I lost my job, she helped me even when I was broke, she sacrificed so much for our love, would you leave someone like that? I bet not.
Never let other people decide for you, it is your life, take charge now. They might call you with different names but they are not YOU.
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