At the onset of dating someone new, you really like him or her and after a while, it becomes apparent that this is shaping up to be a long-term marriage bound relationship. You are certain that you and your partner are in this serious relationship for the long-term.
On the other hand, in case you are still uncertain, how can you discern that what you have is going to develop into a serious marriage bound relationship? Below are the 9 vital tips you should not neglect because they will boost your serious relationship tremendously.
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As a single man or lady in a serious relationship, don't date because of money. As a lady, if you have a man who loves you and cares about you with the little he has, appreciate it and be content with it.
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You should stop getting into relationships because you have a lot of demands and wants and you want your man to take care of them all.
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You should stop making your man a goldmine or consider him as your personal 'ATM' that he has to take care of everything. Your man also has a life to live and his own demands to fulfill.
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In addition to that, you should stop getting into relationships with high expectations. High expectations will demoralize you and you will get disappointed for nothing.
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If you are with a man and he is unable to provide everything you want yet you adore him sincerely, then find a job and cater for yourself. If you can’t find a job or you are handicapped then walk out of the relationship instead of cheating and find someone capable or an organization for disabled people to support you.
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As a morally upright person, you should cease getting into relationships and marriages for wrong reasons. The plain truth is that money can’t buy true love and happiness. If it did then some rich people wouldn't have been single, they wouldn’t have been crying for love and they wouldn’t have been divorcing often. In reality, money just sustains life but it can’t complete everything. Therefore, be wise always.
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True unconditional love is the ultimate answer. If you are already married, the first thing that can make or break your marriage is the love issue. To be sincerely in love with your marital partner will make your marriage work, whereas lack of true love can break it.
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Agape love is the solution to marital strife, unforgiveness, selfishness, envy, malice, slander, disrespect, adultery and many unpleasant issues in marriages. Agape love will prevent physical, verbal, emotional and nasty abuse in marriage relationship.
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What Are Four Kinds Of Love?
There are four Greek words for love with an acronym: "APES."
A — Agape
P — Phileo
E — Eros
S — Storge
The four Greek words are present in a meaningful marriage relationship.
I. Agape: This is divine love. It is unconditional because it accepts people as they are. Therefore, it is the God-kind of love that is sincere, permanent and undemanding. We need to love God, our marital partners and our neighbors as ourselves with Agape love.
II. Phileo: This is love between friends. Therefore, it is friendly love. There should be true friendship between marriage partners. It will solidify the relationship due to cheerful and continuous cordial rapport.
III. Eros: This is intimate love between husband and wife. It is romantic, erotic or s*xual love. To avoid marital conflict, you should have erotic love only for your spouse and not for someone else. Erotic love is a mutual bond in a meaningful marriage.
IV. Storge: This is love between family members. Therefore, it is family love. One naturally shows storge love to members of one's nuclear and extended families. Hence, the common saying that blood is thicker than water.
In conclusion, true love is the greatest force in the universe. The Bible affirms this vital fact. "Meanwhile these three remain: faith, hope and love; and the greatest of these is love." (1 Corinthians 13:13).
True love is trusting, loving and forgiving. The major cause of divorce in marriage is lack of true love. Many married partners divorced due to lack of sincere love or true intimacy or because one or both partners fell out of love.
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