Ok, folks, some of you may have seen this post a million times and of course like everyone else, it points out Common Red Flags in relationships that needs to be avoided - ones you've probably seen before over and over. However, it's not like I'm here to say something new, of course you're going to see similar points, the goal here is to remind us constantly in order to be conscious and aware. At some point, people forget easily and that goes without saying that people need constant reminder to not fall into the same trap again. This could be managed to some extent.
Firstly, let's talk about love and romance in relationships. What is love? Why do we need romance?? There are many definitions for these two terms but to save us the time which we do not have, I'm only going to define it in my own context and I will be brief about it.
Love in my opinion is strong sense of affection, respect, honor, patience, and most importantly consistency and total transparency between two consenting adults. I didn't include the teenagers because they often get it twisted sometimes, no offence. These two individuals care about each other's feelings and share similar beliefs and are drawn to each other for these qualities.
Romance on the other hand, is a gesture of love, affection and deep sense of intimacy. The physical things done between two consenting adults to proof their affection for each other is romance of course in my opinion. Every love story needs romance to keep the vibe flowing well.
That being said, it is true that nothing is ever enough, not even love and romance. People fall out of love, people stop caring and showing affections. Why do you think that is?? Well it's simple, when two people decide to be together, it's a journey of discovery and many exciting adventures. The element of surprise is highly required in relationships. People stop caring when they find out certain truths about their significant other. It ranges from infidelity, to losing the spark in their relationship. It even involves when one decides to move forward in life or wanting to experience new things besides just been in love. But the worst part is the minor things or habits your significant other is portraying that can set two people apart.
You know like I said earlier that relationships are like a journey of discovery, people begin to notice subtle hints that screams out the obvious; you two are not compatible or along the way, there's a high chance of failing badly in this course. Unless something is done quickly, the relationship is headed for a brick wall.
Folks, when you notice these signs in your relationship, find ways to correct them or opt for a permanent solution which could mean ending things totally.
Now, I will mention and explain the following red flags or signs below.
1. *Disrespectful behaviour and constant criticism:
Remember when I said love involves respecting your significant other's feelings and showing support instead of critizing them? Well, the table turns when it's done in reverse. At some point, people get fed up, and starts to lose respect from or for others. Over familiarity can lead to your significant other to begin to trash talk you whenever there's a misunderstanding. They've seen your strength and weaknesses and as such may begin to look down on you for some reasons.
2. Dishonesty and lack of trust;
At some point in your love life, you start to see your significant other doing weird stuff. Things they don't normally do before. They start to lie to cover up bad deeds. It becomes part of who they are and it leads to lack of trust. You can no longer depend on them or trust a word that comes from their mouth.
3. Lack of communication;
Communication is key in every successful relationships. When people no longer communicate effectively, there's bound to be hatred and paranoia. Poor communication leads to two people in. Relationship to split because it starts to feel like no connection anymore. Quiting becomes the ideal solution.
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