Embrace Your Beauty: A Message to Dark-Skinned Teenagers

It just hit me recently that sometimes people's wording can demoralize a teenager. 

 

This is basically for dark-complexion teenagers. During high school days, one or more persons might have told you that you're ugly. 

 

The worst I have seen is being rated the darkest skinned girl in an SS3 class the 27th ugliest girl out of 27 girls.

 

Even that fair girl that's not as pretty as you get to be rated 10th most beautiful and here you are feeling that your skin betrayed you.

 

If you're the darkest skinned person among the seven children in your family, you'll feel it more. When you walk with your sibs, you stand out and not in a beautiful form but otherwise.

 

All of these probably happened when you started your life as a teenager between 13-15.

 

There are consequences. Consequences and disadvantages of those tiny comments especially the ones where, a random person tells you straight-faced with a smile that you're not looking pleasant. Like, Are you for real? What's funny?.

 

There are other comments too. From your classmates telling you that your status is the most ugly girl, saying it as if that's a normal thing to say, as if their words carries no weight. I know the way you watch it fall out from their mouth annoys you. It gets to my nerves too.

 

I was also in that position too though I had my own terrible flaws, like walking the whole school without sandals and playing till my school uniform gets dirty. I really made good use of my playful spirit. I enjoyed my freedom of playfulness and exercised my free spirit.

 

There's one thing you might have done before, you have left home with a very neat dress, composing attitude, well combed hair. While pretending all day, denying the real you to fit into that structure of "beautiful girlie". At the end of the day, you'll hear comments like "She dressed well today? We should kill a ram", " She can't dress that way tomorrow".

 

I personally think, you ought to bite and slap yourself for leaving your coat home and wearing an entirely different coat to school.

 

Dear Sec Sch Girlie,

      You need to master few rules to get there. 

Rule 1: Don't dare try to fit it in.

Rule 2: Embrace you, then your flaws, then necessary changes.

Rule 3: Don't overthink it, Relax your mind.

Rule 4: Don't mask your feelings because you have to accept criticisms. Some criticisms can demoralize you.

Rule 5: Don't let your agemates wordings affect your confidence. You need to keep your confidence. It's a weapon.

Rule 6: Keep yourself in check for necessary things.

Rule 7: Be neat, but don't overdo it, you might loose yourself along the line.

Rule 8: Tell yourself "I love me" everytime you want to stop believing in yourself.

Rule 9: Talk to someone you can relate to and can relate with you well when you have difficulty in making decisions

Rule 10: BE YOURSELF.

 

It's a matter of time, growth will change everything, from the less beautiful face to a more beautiful face. I have been there too, I'm growing and yes there were changes in facial structure, mindset and I had a lot of self realization. Don't grow into the person you'll hate. 

 

In all, Be happy, Be kin

d and Be kind and true to yourself.

 

 

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