As people we fail to see the importance of healing. You can not move and build a life for yourself if you have never sat, and faced your demons. It is important for us to do so for us to move forward in our lives.
We all have trauma's. The trauma's we have collected may be from our childhood, past relationships or even past work environments. One thing is for sure, they shape the person that we are today. If you have healed from them, it is easy for you to transition into a better person, a better version of yourself. You view your past life as a learning curve or a bridge for you to meet your true self.
If you haven't healed from your trauma's, you are not the only one who suffers. The thing about not healing is that you carry all that hurt and pain around. You take it to places you shouldn't take it. You get in relationships and you turn into a toxic person. You give less in the relationshipS, than what they deserve. You become controlling, you become dishonest, angry, unhappy.
The people who are around you when you haven't healed start to remove themselves away from you because you are toxic, and you dont even know it. Your texts and calls to them go unanswered, and the only thing that you think of is that you are alone. You only see yourself as a victim. It is time you ask yourself why those people are not as close to you as you thought they would be.
Are you a victim, who everyone hates and they want nothing to do with? highly unlikely. No one is against you, people love you. You have people around you who want to help you. People who are rooting for your breakthrough, people who are praying for your wellness and success. Don't push them away. Be receptive of their advice and help. Be kind to them, but mostly, be kind to yourself. The things that happened to you, happened for a good reason. Find it.
Only you hold the keys to your happiness. Choose to be happy again. In your journey of finding your true-self, always remember that YOU ARE NOT AN ISLAND. Do not be fooled by the senseless advices people throw around, like "cutting people off". Relationships are to be cherished. If there is anyone who disturbs your peace and triggers bad emotions in you, by all means necessary, cut them off. But if there is a chance at fixing relationships, with people who are genuine with you, fix them. Don't let your ego rob you off of good people in your life.
Sometimes, people need that explanation. Sometimes saying you don't owe anyone an explanation is self-sabotage. Sometimes, you need to go back to the people whom you've ghosted, been mean too or even hurt, and explain why. Explain why you did what you did. Who knows, that could save you.
Growth is a painful process. It is a road with thorns, dangerous animals and the unknown. It is only for the brave. The thing is though, growth is inevitable, and we all grow up, so in essence, we are all brave. YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH AND YOU CAN DO IT. If not today, when you get the chance, face your demons and cry. It doesnt make you weak.
HEAL.
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