I am not ready to be a dad or even to be married .

"I am not ready to be a dad or even to be married ."

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about two weeks.

both of us have a high sex drive and we are intimate quite often.

My girlfriend always tells me when she is in her safe period, and we choose not to use protection then.

But a few days ago, she suddenly came to me crying and told me she was pregnant.

I was completely stunned.

I immediately asked her if she was sure.

She cried and said she had taken multiple pregnancy tests, and the results were all positive.

I could not help but argue, saying we almost always use protection, and she only occasionally did not use it during her safe period.

How could she have gotten pregnant?

Then she confessed that her period was very late, but she had been busy with school and work and had not paid attention.

I could not believe it and immediately went with her to the OB-GYN for a checkup.

The results had confirmed that she was indeed pregnant, eleven weeks along.

Seeing this gestational age, I instantly became suspicious.

I felt the child might not be mine, and I suspected that she was seeing someone else.

I specifically researched online and learned that paternity tests can be done after ten weeks of pregnancy, which gave me an idea.

I discussed it with my girlfriend, lying that my parents wanted to confirm the child's bloodline and asked her to cooperate with the paternity test.

She agreed.

A few days later, the test results came back, showing the child was indeed mine.

I felt relieved, but then I was conflicted.

To be honest, I would only just started dating and was not ready to be a father at all.

Deep down, I did not want to keep the child.

I confronted my girlfriend, urging her to have an abortion, but she absolutely refused, insisting I take responsibility.

When her parents found out, they came to our door, accusing me of bullying their daughter.

They kept saying that abortion would cause serious harm to her body and refused to agree, insisting that I take full responsibility.

I was speechless.

Did they really want to use this unborn child to tie me down completely?

I made it clear that If they insisted on forcing me to keep the child, I would never give them a second thought.

Rather than having a child born into an unprepared, conflict-ridden family, living a life of suffering, it is better to abort it now.

I asked myself honestly, was I really wrong?

I did not want to shoulder the burden of a family so early.

My girlfriend said she was in her safe period, which is why I did not use protection.

Now she is pregnant, is it all my fault?

I always used protection to avoid unplanned pregnancy; I have never been careless about that.

During our relationship, I never forced my girlfriend to take emergency contraception, nor did I do anything to harm her health.

Now that this has happened, I have made it clear that I will cover all the costs of the abortion without hesitation.

But they are still relentless.

I am going crazy; I am filled with frustration and helplessness.

I am filled with regret now.

I should not have trusted my girlfriend so easily; it has led me into this situation.