Should husband dominate wife income

"Should husband dominate wife income"

I am a Taiwan man who got married with a wife

My wife and I are both forty two years old this year.

She earns nearly one hundred thousand dollars in the currency of Taiwan dollars a month,

and I earn a little over thirty thousand dollars in the currency of Taiwan dollars.

And So, my wife covers almost all of our own mortgage, utilities, and household expenses.

My wife never asks me for money for holidays, lunar new year lucky "red pockets", or gifts.

To be very honest to say, My wife has not disappointed me or my wife had never even wronged me in the conditions and terms of financially supporting our own family.

But lately, what is making me feeling increasingly uneasy than the past is not really if my wife and I really have enough money,

but rather than that, the thing that really upsets me is about "who should actually  control my wife money and my money"

My wife actually saves a certain amount each month.

Not a lot of cash yes, but it is also not a little too.

I hope that my wife and I can really plan together and can really save that money together; is not that how couples should do it?

But my wife absolutely refuses.

Whenever it is being  mentioned, my wife just say one thing:

"I also need money to invest, I also need to keep an emergency fund."

The problem is that, my wife already eats in her work and rarely spends her own money at home.

Do my wife and I really need to keep that much money?

I can not help but just keep compare ourselves with other couples.

Almost all my friends also have the husbands to manage the money, and both husbands and wives plan money together and both husbands and wives save money together.

Only me, the money is always "kept secret."

The more I think about it, the more uneasy I would start to feel.

My mind starts racing—

Is there some unspeakable purpose behind it?

Is it because my wife do not want me to know?

Does it mean that my wife really does not trust me at all?

But I do not dare to ask my wife directly.

I am afraid that if I open my mouth and ask about it,

it will seem like I am checking my wife own  accounts, that I am suspicious.

But I am really panicking.

Am I being too controlling or dominant?

Or is it that in a marriage, not even being able to discuss money openly is

the real problem?

If it were you,

would you think this is normal?

Or is something actually weird?

I really need some advice.

Thank you to all of you