You Are the First Model.
The popularly acceptable saying that family is the smallest and basic unit of the society is as true as the dawning of a new day. It is the very pivot and fulcrum on which the society rests and balances. The agreeably important roles family plays in the wellness and establishment of a good society cannot be overemphasized.
This is one reason family is called the mirror of the society as virtually everything one sees in the society is a direct replica of the various families found in that society.
Pointedly, this fact is addressing a very sensitive area of our existence in that concerted efforts should be made to concentrate on value building and good lifestyle into our children from home.
This is very compulsory because parents are the closest models the children see from day to day right from their cradle to adulthood.
As the first representation of model that you are as parents to your children, you cannot afford to be lackadaisical about representing that natural personality to them.
Living with them makes it more important to be conscious of how you live on a daily basis as they see the real life perspectives firsthand through your dispositions to life.
Many a times, you do not need to tell them about these values especially, when they have grown beyond the first stage of childhood through the teenage years.
They pick up ideas and ideals as the case may be very naturally. Really, this makes the consciousness for direct modelling a a parental responsibility that cannot be left in the back burner of ideal parenting.
Parenting is An Intentional Responsibility.
As life is deemed and accepted to be intentional in itself,so is everything natural and unnatural in life that constitute it thrives on intentionality. If you consider it closely, you will see that there is nothing in life existing that does not have intentionality in the formation of its birthing.
Same is required of parenting. Intentionality is the very sole of proper and ideal parenting. Children do not just turn out good in life.
We cannot undermine the role of God as the builder of everything though, because I have seen children from unfortunate homes having underserving parents turn out great in life through the help of God and godly individuals.
But based on facts and times we are in, intententionality in parenting is a responsibility all parents cannot leave to anybody else to carry out for them. As parents are intentional about making their businesses work, making their careers thrive and survive in this down period economically the world over,
they should brace up in their parenting responsibility in the world where families scatter like a pack of cards so easily more than ever before.
This onus of intententionality could take them far into a reading culture about parenting they may have to imbibe. It could also take them far from their base to attend seminars, workshops and in this age of online meetings enabled by Covid-19, webinars could be the needed tool to galvanize their parenting skills.
Undoubtedly, the responsibility parents are conditioned to taking up in order to see their children become agents of meaningful contributions to the wellness of their immediate society and the whole wide world is intentional parenting.
All hands must be on deck to realise this great need in our society. Parents have decided to toll this path of parenthood, I believe not by accident, even, if it is by accident, the reality of the need for a great society needing their intentional involvement should challenge them to be proactive in parenting not reactive.
Parents who will not be intentional about bringing up their children in a great way, then expecting good children from their homes to incurcate the is a cvalues societyand ideals of their societal space is an affront,a clear perpetration of fraud. What you put into an engagement, under normal experience, is what you see.
Intentional parenting is a responsibility that is lacking in our society these days. Some parents attribute this to time, others to the chase of economic prosperity.
They are quick to forget that ammasing all the wealth the world has on offer without an ideal posterity to ensure continuity is a waste of energy, time and precious opportunities, and a monumental danger to the society of man.
Be Intentional About Little Things.
This piece of an article came from my core being considering an example of a recent event in my very home. My darling wife travelled to the state capital to celebrate a man marking his 60th birthday. As an up and coming gospel artist, she had gone there to see if it would be possible for her to clinch a five- minutes minstration at the least. It was this past Sunday, so I had to take the custody of our three children. When we got to our headquarters, because we had a combined programme there, one of the little girl, a supposed friend to my first child asked him the whereabouts of his mother. He said," my mother travelled". The girl asked where exactly did the mother go, my boy said he knew not but she travelled. Some minutes after their conversation, my boy came to me where I was seated telling me everything. He then asked me, "daddy, I told so,so person that mummy travelled but I didn't know where she went. Did I not lie?" I said, "son, you didn't lie. You told the truth because you didn't know your mother went to the state capital". Then, he left.
Why did he come to me to ask whether he had lied about his response to the other girl or not? The simple reason was that his mother and I had always taken it upon ourselves to drum it into their hearings that the habit of lying is a bad habit that has far reaching consequences. This is intentional parenting! We tell them, no matter what may betide, we are not permitted to tell lies as Christianity adherents. We tell them telling lies reduces people's values and there by limits their influence on others.
As responsible parents who are definitely interested in the possibility of a better society, we need to be intentional about little things. Little things come together to become much on no time.
My little story about may be so little about the many aspects of parenting to some people reading this article, but a principle of abhorring lies is a principle that helps strengthen relationships and enhance trust amongst people in any geographical setting of cohabitation. Every little thing in parenting, as other branch of living, is essintial to realising the kind of society we all desire. A society where all can go to bed in the night peacefully without the fear of intruders cutting short our sweet sleep. A society where things work with little or no supervision because every player knows what to do per time and what to avoid.
All these facts above lie on the table of first seeing yourselves, as parents, as First Model and practice intentional parenting not ignoring little things while being very intentional about this discourse.
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