From a young age I have been able to make friends everywhere I went. I made it my mission to make friends and have peers like me so that I was always invited to parties, sleepovers, birthdays, etc. As a child I enjoyed my time with my friends, unfortunately most of these friendships were built on the basis of snack sharing, invites to fun outings and so on and so forth, therefore, very fragile and short lived.
As kids we often ended friendships on the account that one refused to share a piece of candy, a bite of a tasty sandwich, a sip of a fruity drink and the list is endless. This is because as kids we associated sharing as a method of saying 'now we are friends'. Later, depending on whether or not the friendship survives the superficial side of things, we begin to build on the relationship which gains emotional depth, shared interests, each other's families, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.
The friendships that cross over the threshold of superficial into substantial can last lifetimes because throughout the time this relationship has been blossoming, a genuine aspect came into play. Where the involved individuals began to understand each other in an intuitive manner that they can tell when the other is unbelievably bored, excited, angry, etc., by the way they express themselves whether they speak out or not.
We only reach this level of connectivity with one another when we are able to be genuine with ourselves first, then others second, to allow genuine people to connect with us. That's why it's a friend-ship not a friend-plank, because you have to take time to build and maintain it so you can go the distance and weather the elements without it falling apart.
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