Deep emotions

A person more easily admits and expresses pleasant emotions than unpleasant ones, as well as those that were validated and allowed in the primary family or other environment during growing up. The most common emotions that are suppressed are fear, sadness, anger and shame. These emotions can appear as primary, those that we first feel as a reaction to some event or words, but if they make us too vulnerable, we will not be ready to express them explicitly. Also, one of the main reasons for not expressing the primary emotion is that it was recognized as unacceptable in the primary family. For example, if as a child you were criticized or mocked when you expressed sadness, or if you were punished when you expressed anger. It may be the case that one of the other family members went through such experiences, so you learned from the model that it is better and safer not to show that emotion (for example, a brother or sister was punished when they showed anger, or the father ridiculed and insulted mother when she expresses sadness). Instead of those and such emotions, most people will express some other emotions, which are called secondary, with which they are better able to cope. For example, if the child runs out into the street, the mother may shout at him, maybe even hit him, expressing anger, which in this case is a secondary emotion, while her primary emotion is actually fear. Anger in this case serves to protect her from the vulnerability that arises as a result of fear for her child's life, but also to influence the child to change his behavior. Do you recognize any emotion in yourself that you can say is secondary, and what primary emotion does it actually cover up?