INTIMACY
Intimacy is closeness between people in personal relationships. It could either be physical or emotional closeness or both.
Note: intimacy isnt another word for sex....
It is very possible to have sex with your partner without intimacy and as well as intimacy without sex....
_Types of intimacy_
1. Emotional
2. Intellectual
3. Experiential
4. Spiritual
1. Emotional intimacy; is what allows you to tell your loved ones personal things that you might not necessarily share with strangers.
Think of it as letting your guard down. As you learn that you can trust someone, you feel safe enough to let your walls down.
2.Intellectual intimacy involves getting to know how another person’s mind works and sharing the map to your mind too.
It builds as you exchange ideas and have meaningful conversations.
3.You build experiential intimacy by spending quality time with someone and growing closer over common interests and activities. E.g a common movie you all watch i.e money heist
4. Spirituality means different things to different people, so spiritual intimacy can vary too.
Generally speaking, spirituality is about belief in something beyond the physical realm of existence.
E.g having an intimacy with God...
How to build intimacy with your partner
How to build intimacy with your partner
I_ INTENTIONAL
It means being deliberate about knowing your partner, spending quality time together.. coz if you arent intentional about each other you will __drift apart_😌
2. N_ need
Even God meets all our needs...😌
Be responsive to each others need be it physical, emotional, financial, mental...
You meet each other needs by understanding your partners love language because if you dont you might do a lot of things in the wrong way...
3. T_ trust
You cant build intimacy without trust... you need to be an open book in your relationship...
Funny how lot of trust has been broken but not rebuilt..
*How can you build trust*
1. Transparency:learn to be naked so that you can easily be read.. *BE OPEN*
2. integrity: learn to keep your word because everytime you break that you breach trust..
5.M_ MANAGING YOUR EMOTION
Relationship fail because of unwillingness to manage your emotion.
You both need to become who you ought to be for relationship to strive.
*Your emotions being real sometimes doesnt mean they are right* e.g you can be getting angry over something that you think isnt right doesnt mean it right.. you can mis perecive things, issues sometimes
You wont feel like it all the time e.g feel like talking, texting, buying her/him gifts .. All these you fail to do doesnt mean it right.
Learn to be emotionally available..
Women are emotional in every form and communicate for *affection not for solutions* while men are emotional in one or 2 slots of thier brain.
_How to manage your emotion_
Perspective : how you see things matters, understanding how your partner sees things is important..
Note: your emotions are directly connected to your thought..
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